How to get rid of anxiety in life?
Anxiety is a stable personality trait, while anxiety is a temporary state (emotion). If traumatic situations are repeated often, negative factors constantly affect, then uncertainty and anxiety become permanent, which significantly worsens the quality of life. Anxiety is corrective and measurable. But as always, everything in order.
Description of the phenomenon
The specificity of anxiety depends on age. At the heart of its occurrence lies the dissatisfaction of the actual needs of the individual, which also differ from the age and worldview of a person.
So, for example, for an early age, the leading need is communication with the mother. For preschool - the need for independence. For the primary school - the need to be meaningful. For adolescents - to engage in socially significant activities and, according to other experts, interpersonal communication with peers. For young men and in the future - professional and personal self-realization.
Thus, the object of alarm may differ depending on the age. So, for example, if at an early age a child has a hard time being separated from his mother, then in elementary school anxiety can provoke failure in school, and in adolescence - rejection by the class. However, for everyone, the needs for food, safety, sleep remain relevant.
In response to anxiety, defense and compensation mechanisms are always activated. Anxiety, let go of its own accord, provokes the development of states of panic and despair. It destroys personality.
Features of the behavior of a highly anxious person
The person himself is not always aware of the problem, and it is difficult to notice anxiety from the outside. Especially if it is masked, compensation occurs or a protective mechanism is activated. However, there are several characteristic differences between an anxious person:
- Overly emotional reactions to failure.
- Decreased performance in stressful situations or under tight deadlines.
- Fear of failure prevails over desire for success.
- The situation of success serves as an incentive and motivation for activity, the situation of failure - “kills”.
- Perception of the entire surrounding world or many objects as dangerous, although subjectively this is not so.
Low-anxiety individuals have opposite characteristics. For example, situations of failure serve as a greater motivator for them than success. However, low anxiety is the flip side of the coin, it is also dangerous for the individual.
Correction of anxiety
In the fight against anxiety, it is important to take into account its nature (disorganizer or motivator), reasons and type. Along with this, personality traits and the capabilities of the environment play an important role.
It is difficult to deal with anxiety on your own. Even when a specialist works with a client, a wall of resistance and psychological barriers often arise. Even if the client wants to get rid of anxiety, he still often resists. The desire to help is perceived as an encroachment on safety and comfort zone, which despite the name means "familiar zone". In this case, familiar does not mean comfortable.
Anxiety is closely related to shyness and withdrawal. Usually the latter arise against the background of the first phenomenon. However, it also happens vice versa.
Thus, to reduce the level of anxiety, you need to work on self-confidence, the formation of adequate self-esteem, and getting rid of shyness. If you, dear reader, are forced to deal with anxiety yourself, then here are some general tips for you:
- Don't worry about what didn't happen.
- Cultivate an orientation toward compromise, cooperation, and mutual assistance.
- Take care of your psychophysical state. For example, make it a rule to do morning exercises, do not stay late at work, learn to say "no" or, on the contrary, help.
- Love yourself. Don't be afraid to create a comfortable environment for yourself.
- Improve communication skills, learn to communicate, get out of conflicts.
- Learn to self-regulate. A trivial example is to count to 10 for yourself.
- Never get too close to yourself.
Find an outlet. Every person and even animal should have their own place of safety and pleasure. You should know that no matter what, you have this place (hobby, people). And even if everything "falls apart" around you, there you will find peace and support.
Understand what your anxiety is about. Usually it is a complex of emotions, among which fear is a constant component. Variants such as "fear, shame and guilt" or "fear, guilt and anger" may occur.
Please remember the main principle of anxiety. The more you worry, the more the quality of the activity suffers. From this, anxiety develops even more. Yes, it's a vicious circle. It literally needs to be torn apart.
